Tuesday 31 May 2011

Seek the Ideal Marriage Partner with Free Dating Websites

You are ready to settle down with that ideal someone, but you are not sure where to find them. You have tried meeting people through friends and family, in pubs and at the market. You have now come to the conclusion that so many singles are finding mates online; it’s time for you to try it too. You want a spouse, not just a date, so what do you do?
Your best option is going to be a site that bases your matches on overall compatibility. Matching technology has come a long way in the past decade, with the number of positive results growing year by year. A recent study showed that in the U.S., 26% of people who met their spouse online did it through just one matching site! This particular site also claims to be responsible for 4.77% of total marriages in 2010. If one site can pull off those numbers in one country, the matching concept is obviously valid in regard to producing marriages, and can work on other sites and in the rest of the world.
How does the matchmaking on these sites work? How does it help you find your ideal marriage partner? Compatibility researchers have tested married couples to determine what factors separate the “happy” from the “unhappy.” They have discovered that opposites may attract, but often it’s not a person’s ultimate choice or if it is, the result is often negative.
Dating studies have shown that people have more success in marriage if their partner is somewhat similar to themselves. This is because they understand the hows and whys of their spouse and make life’s decisions similarly. They are not intended to be identical in every area, but in defining categories, such as social style, emotional temperament and relationships skills.
These factors and tests, plus a complicated computer database that can do your searches for you, are your best bet when seeking the ideal marriage partner online. Researches into their counterparts, the sites that allow people to choose their own matches with no system of compatibility, have a much lower success rate. In these systems, members go out with less than 1% of the profiles they search and even among those, the majority does not go out on a second.
This shows that though you may have a long list of what you think is ideal for you, it may not actually be the person who would be the most successful marriage partner. Dr. Eli Finkel, who researches dating and relationships at Northwestern University says, “They think they know what they want, but meeting somebody who possesses the characteristics they claim are so important is much less inspiring than they would have predicted.” So, in point of fact, on your own you may find what you think is ideal, and then not be at all interested in them.
All this research combines to prove that if you are looking for ideal, you need to remove the random searches and go with a testing based site. It also shows that you should let the computer choose for you. You then take its matches and search for attraction and chemistry, which at this point, a computer still cannot predict. Those become your options for conversations and dates. If you use dating websites in this manner, you have the highest chances of finding that ideal someone with whom to share your life.

Monday 30 May 2011

Meet British Singles at Free Dating Sites in the UK

A short time ago, online dating was often the butt of many jokes. If you were a member of a dating site you would be very secretive about it, and you certainly wouldn’t tell your friends. But, it’s amazing how things have changed so much. Dating sites now make up a huge part of the internet and more people are signing up to find love online every day. In fact, a study performed by the `Sunday Times’ discovered that “7 million UK singles visit a dating site every month”. This positive shift in favor of dating sites was made possible for a few reasons.

The advent of completely free dating sites was probably the largest contributor to the dating site boom. It’s a common practice for dating sites to offer free trials to draw in new users. Unfortunately, these trial accounts are extremely limiting and extremely short-lived. A free dating site allows users complete access to all of the websites features without the need to ever pay. One huge benefit of the free dating sites is that they allow new users the opportunity to enter the online dating world without investing any money.

Now that the negative stigma behind internet dating sites has disappeared, UK singles have found these services to be the most effective way to find someone. Online dating sites offer you access to an entire database of local people that are single and actively seeking a relationship. You can find romance as efficiently as possible by scanning through the list, and only speaking with the members that you are interested in. In contrast, traditional dating would require you to strike up conversations with thousands of people just to determine if there is anything in common. Most people have such a busy schedule that tracking down potential matches in this way just isn’t possible. Surprisingly enough, many websites will allow you to do all of this for free.

In addition, dating sites are a great way to meet people when you are new to an area. With the luxury of finding dates from the comfort of your own home, you can avoid sitting alone in a pub in hopes of meeting new people. People that are new to a city can use the dating site to create a great network of new friends and possibly more.

Another reason for the recent popularity of internet dating sites is the sheer number of positive `romance stories’. These stories act as testimonials for the whole industry. As more and more people enter long lasting relationships from an internet dating site, their friends want to take a shot at love online as well. Online dating has actually become one of the more popular ways to meet a new boyfriend or girlfriend.

The online dating scene in the UK has definitely changed completely. It has undergone rapid growth, and continues to evolve for the better. Once thought of as a place for the pathetic, an internet dating site is now considered to be the best way to meet new people in the UK.

Friday 27 May 2011

The Truth About Internet Dating

The rules of Internet dating have changed. With the advent of social networking sites, the stigma behind it has been erased. Even so, there are still many misconceptions surrounding dating sites. I’m here to tell you the truth and set the record straight.

In all honesty, internet dating is pretty similar to dating in `real life’. You meet someone that you find attractive (physically or mentally), speak with them, and then proceed to go on a few dates. The major difference is that internet dating is a more efficient way of meeting people. It is really only the “Step One” in the dating process. Instead of going to various places in search of a potential date, a single person can log on to a dating site and be presented with thousands of other people in their area that are actively seeking dates.

Human interaction is not removed from the date, there is only a difference in the first contact. This is why you need to always be working on making yourself the best person possible. The internet is not going to magically make you a better person. If you’re really bad on dates, then you will be really bad on dates with people that you meet on the internet. It’s not rocket science, but some people join dating sites with the belief that they will magically live a life of romance. While a online dating site can certainly offer you romance, it truly is dependent upon you.

Probably the greatest truth in Internet dating is that most people lie. They will lie about their age, their job, living arrangements, and in some cases, their marital status. Some people will even lie about their looks. A recurring story on dating forums is of meeting someone that looks completely different from their online photo. You name it, and someone on an internet dating site has lied about it! I don’t say this to discourage you from online dating by any means. You should merely keep this in mind when you think that you’ve met the “Perfect” person on the internet. In internet dating, the old adage, “If it’s too good to be true, it is.” is totally accurate.

While it may be a common practice, I warn against lying to others. Honesty is the best policy if you’re trying to create a long term relationship. Just imagine how uncomfortable it will be to explain how you are a big fat liar. This is especially true in regards to your personal photo. You should use a photo that is as recent as possible, and not ‘Photoshopped ‘ to make you look better than you are. Instead of using your best photos, you should include only the one’s that display how you really appear.
Hopefully, you’ve been enlightened to a few of the realities behind online dating sites. If you remain open minded, there is a good chance that you will find your ideal match. Remember not to seek perfection in other’s, but in yourself and dating will become a piece of cake.


Thursday 26 May 2011

Keeping your identity safe with Free Dating Sites in UK

No one wants to become at risk for something as simple as trying to find a date. However, not everyone’s intentions are honorable, as we hear daily on the news and see in television programs. Bad things happen to good people. So how do you protect yourself when online dating…particularly on free sites? You want to be economical, but know that these sites are often not as secure. There are a number of things you can do to protect yourself.

First, set up a new free email account not connected to your personal information. Do not use a form of your name or anything that gives away too much information about you, i.e. numbers you use that could be tried as passwords. If you are going to instant message, the same rule hold true. Get a new type of account and make your screen name general and non-suggestive. Being “sexy” can get too much unwanted and persistent attention.

Check out a site before you subscribe or list any information about yourself. What information do they consider public? You may be very cautious in what you’d put in a profile, omitting your last name and place of work, however, some sites post the information you give them. Always check what information others can see and choose a site that helps you control it. Make sure they have privacy settings and a privacy commitment, as well as some way to notify them of safety concerns.

 When it comes to free dating sites in UK, the next way to protect yourself is to monitor what kind of information you divulge in what venue. Once you are on the site and communicating, make sure what you tell people cannot be put to bad use. Be vague at first with a new one-on-one contact. Tell them you are not comfortable answering certain questions if you feel pressed and gauge their response. Anyone with the correct intentions will react with understanding. When in a public forum, be aware that others could be monitoring what you are saying and putting pieces of your life together. Avoid using public forums all together if at all possible.

If you get to the point you are ready to speak with someone on the phone, dial 141 first to block your number. Our phones are linked to so much of our personal information; avoiding giving out your number until you are positive its safe is the best policy. Again, anyone who is concerned about your safety will admire you using your brain. If they give you flack, stop communication. You want a date who understands your need to feel protected.

Lastly, keep a record of conversations. There are positives to this practice. Having a document full of information will help you keep track of who said what and help you follow up on events in someone’s life. You can also make sure you don’t repeat stories or blunder into a prospect’s pet peeve that they only mentioned once. On the safety side, you will have proof and documentation if the need ever arises for you to take action. The site, or worse, the police will want evidence of predatory behavior. Having this ensures your safety, and the safety of anyone else with whom an unsafe person would come in contact.