You are ready to settle down with that ideal someone, but you are not sure where to find them. You have tried meeting people through friends and family, in pubs and at the market. You have now come to the conclusion that so many singles are finding mates online; it’s time for you to try it too. You want a spouse, not just a date, so what do you do?
Your best option is going to be a site that bases your matches on overall compatibility. Matching technology has come a long way in the past decade, with the number of positive results growing year by year. A recent study showed that in the U.S., 26% of people who met their spouse online did it through just one matching site! This particular site also claims to be responsible for 4.77% of total marriages in 2010. If one site can pull off those numbers in one country, the matching concept is obviously valid in regard to producing marriages, and can work on other sites and in the rest of the world.
How does the matchmaking on these sites work? How does it help you find your ideal marriage partner? Compatibility researchers have tested married couples to determine what factors separate the “happy” from the “unhappy.” They have discovered that opposites may attract, but often it’s not a person’s ultimate choice or if it is, the result is often negative.
Dating studies have shown that people have more success in marriage if their partner is somewhat similar to themselves. This is because they understand the hows and whys of their spouse and make life’s decisions similarly. They are not intended to be identical in every area, but in defining categories, such as social style, emotional temperament and relationships skills.
These factors and tests, plus a complicated computer database that can do your searches for you, are your best bet when seeking the ideal marriage partner online. Researches into their counterparts, the sites that allow people to choose their own matches with no system of compatibility, have a much lower success rate. In these systems, members go out with less than 1% of the profiles they search and even among those, the majority does not go out on a second.
This shows that though you may have a long list of what you think is ideal for you, it may not actually be the person who would be the most successful marriage partner. Dr. Eli Finkel, who researches dating and relationships at Northwestern University says, “They think they know what they want, but meeting somebody who possesses the characteristics they claim are so important is much less inspiring than they would have predicted.” So, in point of fact, on your own you may find what you think is ideal, and then not be at all interested in them.
All this research combines to prove that if you are looking for ideal, you need to remove the random searches and go with a testing based site. It also shows that you should let the computer choose for you. You then take its matches and search for attraction and chemistry, which at this point, a computer still cannot predict. Those become your options for conversations and dates. If you use dating websites in this manner, you have the highest chances of finding that ideal someone with whom to share your life.
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